The New Year is a great time for you to try to improve yourself, reach your goals, and realize your potential. There is a plethora of advice out there about the best way to do those things. Self-help guides and articles are plentiful, all filled with advice about what to do to improve yourself. Unfortunately, few offer ideas for how to avoid the common mistakes people make when they are focusing on their personal growth. What are those common mistakes? And how can you prevent them? Keep reading to learn more.
#1. Reaching Too High
Yes, setting big goals is essential, but if you have not exercised in years, then climbing a mountain isn’t exactly within your current reach. Those who are most successful with personal growth set realistic, attainable goals that help them to strive toward even larger ones later. Small, incremental changes are what result in lasting habits that you take with you throughout your life. So, yes, you CAN lose 10 kilograms in two months, but SHOULD you?
#2. Following Someone Else’s Path
Personal growth and development are all about realizing YOUR potential, which means your path and needs are unique to you. It is great that your best friend found happiness through Tai Chi and a new career. But, is that what you need? Personal development should be focused on what is important to you, not what has worked for other people.
#3. Being Inconsistent
Lots of people start on a journey toward healing or growth and then get upset when they do not see results in their life quickly or even after some time. The truth is, people are hard to change, especially in their daily habits, and when you do not practice something regularly, it is not going to make much difference. When you are trying to develop new habits or mindsets, consistency is critical. A little bit every day will get you where you want to be. But it takes time.
#4. Striving for Perfection
Many people find themselves paralyzed in their personal development work because they are bound by ideas that they must be perfect to do it “right.” Growth, by its very definition, requires learning, which means you must make mistakes and learn from them. Personal development is about action, not perfection. And the sooner you let go of the notion that you need to be perfect to achieve your goals, the happier and more successful you will be.
#5. Giving Your Power Away to Others
For a lot of us, the very notion of personal growth is hard to consider on your own. So, you seek advice from others, you see a counselor, or you hire a coach. Pretty soon, you have lots of people telling you what you need and what to do, and before you know it, your journey is not yours anymore. Yes, others can be helpful with their advice, but you should be the one making the decisions and driving the choices for how you want to attain those dreams or what goals you are striving for.
#6. Celebrating the Wrong Victories
While it is essential to acknowledge your hard-fought battles and to recognize the victories in your self-growth journey, it is often the case that these celebrations become an endpoint rather than a stepping stone. We all know someone who has lost a lot of weight only to regain it after a little time has passed. For them, the victory was the number on the scale, not the adoption of healthier habits. They were focused on the product, not the process. And it is in the process that our attention and value should lie.
So being aware of these pitfalls is critical in undertaking journeys of growth and development. Roadblocks and obstacles are in place to challenge ourselves and when we become aware of them we can develop strategies to deal with them. For support in achieving your goals, please feel free to contact me or visit our online academy and see what is available for you to achieve your best.